Love Is Strange: A Reading List for an Uncommon Valentine’s Day
Whether you’re ensconced with a partner, happily single, unhappily single, or one of the many shades in between, the arrival of February and its associated holidays conjure up images of partnership and passion. Valentine’s Day sometimes brings with it a sense of despair that loneliness is forever, or anxiety that your relationship isn’t what it’s “supposed” to look like. Inevitably, there will be countless articles hocking advice on how to find your soulmate.
These books might not bring a new love to your doorstep, but maybe they will reveal the love that might already exist in your life.
Eros the Bittersweet
by Anne Carson
Carson’s thesis on a fragment of a poem by ancient poet Sappho blooms into a meditation on the nature of desire, and a close attention to how it moves and behaves. For Carson, love is active, and the space between the love and beloved is the most thrilling place of all.
If Not, Winter, Fragments of Sappho
by Sappho
Few complete poems remain of ancient Greek poet Sappho’s work—most are so old, worn and tattered they are barely translatable. But the fragments that exist take on a new life. A remnant containing a single word can sometimes be more moving than an epic ode.
All About Love
by bell hooks
bell hooks’ All About Love discusses Black feminist theory in the context of interpersonal relationships, community, and inner work in a way that feel accessible. This is a great place to begin thinking about love as a political act. How we conduct our relationships shapes how we look at the world, and hooks contributes to the conversation in wonderful ways.
Lie With Me
by Phillipe Besson, translated by Molly Ringwald
Reminiscent of Call Me By Your Name, but quieter and set in rural France. The title character encounters a man who resembles a first love, and causes him to remember the force and anxiety of it.
Not One Day
by Anne Garréta, translated by Emma Ramadan and the author
Anne Garreta’s experiments in prose take us on a journey in which the main character attempts to not go one day without an encounter with a woman. These attempts are beautiful, tender and sometimes hilarious.
Solve For Desire
by Caitlin Bailey
This series of poems based on the mysterious and tragic relationship between German poet Georg Trakl and his sister Grete are heartbreaking, lush and complex.
Pizza Girl
by Jean Kyoung Frazier
Contemporary and classic at once, Pizza Girl contains moments of truth and subtlety amidst a backdrop of Los Angeles as seen from a pregnant 18-year-old pizza delivery girl and the beguiling mother whom she finds utterly compelling.
How Should a Person Be?
by Sheila Heti
A “novel from life” much like Besson’s Lie With Me, and borrowing from multiple literary forms, How Should a Person Be? is both personal and philosophical. Its characters find themselves within their society asking themselves how to exist as artists and as people, what they desire and how they should act.
What You Are Going Through
by Sigrid Nunez
The narrator encounters a string of characters who are experiencing pivotal emotional moments in their lives and chooses to accompany them through these moments. A novel for anyone who has ever sought companionship and experienced another’s grief. Quietly powerful and deeply felt.
Bluets
by Maggie Nelson
A lyric essay that explores the color blue, desire, art, grief and the ecstatic, Bluets is sacred and profane. Written in numbered fragments reminiscent of Roland Barthes’ A Lover’s Discourse, Bluets is saturated by passionate inquiry, and continues to be an affecting text.