You've Got Mail: Old-Fashioned Letter Writing for Fun

By Amanda Pagan, Children's Librarian
June 22, 2020
Stavros Niarchos Foundation Library (SNFL)

Dear Reader, 

Gertrude Berg sitting at desk

Gertrude Berg sitting at desk. NYPL Digital Collections, Image ID: psnypl_the_5469

When was the last time you wrote a letter by hand? When was the last time you received a handwritten letter?

In today’s fast-paced, tech-based world, letter writing can seem like an obsolete or quaint form of communication, but I’m here to assure you that it is still just as wonderful and rewarding as it's always been. 

Writing Personal Notes & Letters

Much like photographs, letters capture a moment in time. They show us what the writer was thinking of, their emotions, and often what was going on in the world at that time. Handwriting is an extremely personal aspect of someone’s character and can offer a connection to the past. Imagine finding a letter from your great-great grandmother and realizing you both write your "g’s" the same way! 

The Joy of Slow Communication

Historians spend a great deal of time trying to decipher the handwriting of the past in order to authenticate and translate ancient documents. Palaeography is the study of ancient and historical handwriting. 

Penmanship and cursive used to be an important subject in grade school, but sadly they have fallen by the wayside in favor of computer-based writing. Many parents have taken it upon themselves to teach their children the art of cursive. 

Letter-writing is a great activity to get your child excited both about snail mail and handwriting! Encourage them to send a letter to their best friend or favorite relative. If they really want to be creative, why not send a secret message using invisible ink or a secret code? What kid wouldn’t be excited about sending their best friend a super-secret message that only the two of them could understand?

secret communications throughout history, with 21 codes and ciphers

If your child is interested in secret codes, Crayola has a simple online craft activity. For more information, be sure to browse our shelves and check Non-Fiction 652.8 for more books on secret codes! 

If you have the time, why not send a thoughtful letter to a friend or relative? Don’t know how? Don’t worry! We’re here to help! Here are some things to keep in mind while letter-writing.

What to Write

Not every letter has to be an 8-page composition about the way of the world. You can send a simple 1-2 page note “Just to say hi!”. Other possible topics include:

  1. Just checking in
  2. Upcoming Holidays/Important dates
  3. A silly anecdote
  4. Thinking about you/Reminiscing 
  5. You wouldn’t believe what happened today

​Stationery 

stationery examples

If you are taking the trouble to send a handwritten note, you might as well take a moment to think about what exactly you are going to write on. Stationery can be a fun extension of your personality since there are so many options. Matching letter and envelope sets are fun, but you can also decorate your own paper and envelopes. If you want paper with a vintage look to it, why not experiment with tea staining? Or dyeing with other natural ingredients you can find at home?

Whether you choose fancy and formal monogrammed or romantic and whimsical stationery, the most important thing to remember is that your handwriting needs to be legible. Be careful with dark paper or stationary with big prints as standard black and blue ink might not show up against the underlying colors. In the example, the stationery on the left has a fun border with plenty of white space in the middle  that is perfect for writing. The stationery on the right might make it difficult to see handwriting with its more prominent print. Also, be sure the address areas on the envelope are clear and legible as well. 

Penmanship

Rediscover the Beauty and Power of Penmanship

The most important thing to remember about writing a letter: it needs to be legible. 

Whether or not you are using cursive or block letters, your handwriting needs to be easily understood. If it has been a while since you last wrote by hand, then practice what you want to say on scrap paper until you are satisfied with it. 

If you are not satisfied with your handwriting or it has been a while since you last used cursive, why not check out a workbook?

Handlettering and calligraphy are beautiful forms of writing that can really add some pizzazz to your letters and other crafts. 

How to Actually Write a Letter:

example letter
  1. Be sure to write the date! Letters are time capsules after all.
  2. Your sender is bound to hold onto your letter as a keepsake, so be sure to put down when it was written. 
  3. Salutation. “Dear so-and-so” is the standard greeting for letters. There is nothing wrong with keeping things simple or jazzing it up with something unique! 

    • If you are writing a love letter, try using “To my Dearest” or “To my Love” to sound more romantic.
    • Feel free to jazz up your greeting if you are writing to a close friend. For example, “To my Best Friend” or “To the Girl Who Ate All of the Pizza that One Time”.
    • If you want to be quirky, try something like “Greetings from *insert place*”. 
  4. The body. Start your letter a line below the greeting and make sure to indent so that the first paragraph is distinguishable. You can use your thumb as a measuring tool. Hold the left side to the edge of the paper and start on the edge of the right side of your thumb.   Be sure to break up the content of your writing into paragraphs with indents to mark the breaks. It is standard to inquire about their health and wellness after the greeting, but you can really start your letter however you want. 
  5. ValedictionWhen you are finished writing, take a moment to think about your valediction, or complimentary close. This is the part of the letter where you end with a phrase before signing your name. “Sincerely, *Insert name*” is the standard closing for letters, but there are tons of other options:
    • Sincerely/Sincerely Yours
    • Yours Truly/Yours Forever/Forever Yours
    • XOXO (hugs and kisses)
    • Regards/Warmest Regards
    • Cordially/Cordially Yours 
    • ​Love
  6. End the letter by signing off your name. If you’d like to add a post-script, or P.S., you would place it under your name. A post-script can be something that you forgot to mention in the body of the letter or anything really. ​
    • ​​P.S. Did you know that nothing rhymes with silver, purple, or orange?
    • P.S. I forgot to mention they named the baby Suzy. 

Sending Your Letter

envelope

When sending mail, take the same care with your envelope that you would take with the letter itself. Make sure to write clearly and legibly. Try not to use excessively fancy cursive on the envelope as that might make it difficult for the post office to process it. Block letters work just fine.

  • Put your name and address, the “return address”, in the upper left corner of the envelope.
    • ​Your name
    • Street Address
    • Apartment number (if applicable). If you are sending to a private home then skip this.
    • City, State Zipcode (only place the comma between the city and state.)
    • So that it looks something like this
      • (EX: Apartment Building)            (EX: Private Home)
      • Jane Smith                                            Jane Smith
      • 123 Main Street                                123 Main Street 
      •  Apt 1                                                        Bronx, NY 12312
      • Queens, NY 12312
  • Write the receiver’s name and address in the center of the envelope. 
    • ​​Their Name
    • Street Address
    • Apartment number (if applicable)
    • City, State Zipcode
    • So that it looks something like this:
      • (EX: Apartment Building)            (EX: Private Home)
      • John Smith                                            Joan Smith
      • 321 Ocean Ave                                  321 Ocean Ave
      • Apt 2                                                         Staten Island, NY 12121
      • Brooklyn, NY 12121
  • Don’t forget to add a stamp! Just like with stationery, stamps are a great way to add a bit of flare to the letter. The price of stamps varies, so be sure to ask your mail carrier or clerk at the counter of your local post office. When in doubt, consult the United States Postal Service website. Make sure to place your stamp in the upper right corner. 
  • Now that you have addressed your envelope, be sure to seal it. If you are going for a vintage aesthetic, why not use a wax seal? If you don’t have any handy, try stickers! Or maybe just draw something fun. 

Now that you have written, addressed, and sealed your envelope, all that’s left is to send it!  It might be faster to talk by phone or text, but much like a homemade sweater, a handwritten letter requires real effort and drive to complete. The recipient is sure to be thrilled by the effort you put into your endeavor.

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